In spite of the loving hugs and talks with students and staff when I went into work after school yesterday and today, I did manage to finish my lists of tasks for my return in January.Although I tried to stay STRONG, I ended up weeping and sharing lots of touching stories about Patt and even about the end of his life, which was a beautiful and terrible time. It'll probably be positive to keep busy and stressed about other things like incompetent members of my department, the end of the semester, whiny students, etc. *sigh* On my list for the trip are a myriad of items(always terrified I'll forget a charger) and written almost as an afterthought: PATT.
This wasn't the way he envisioned his Bucket List trip to California. :( I read in one of my grieving books that most people get tired of dealing with someone's loss in a month, so I guess I have a few more weeks to mourn, right? If it's all the same to you all, it's going to take me way longer than that.
I don't remember the story very well, but we were at a gymnastics meet in Oregon and a dog somehow got out of the hotel window. It was panicked, so my husband got up there(no fear of heights at all) and coaxed the animal back into the room. Patt was very good with dogs, although Alison's cat Mari was a mystery to him. I think she just hates everyone!
If you've read this blog for long, I don't need to tell you that his own girls were the most important thing in his life and he let us know that in many ways, even before he got cancer. He was always PRESENT, ready to listen, problem solve, make us laugh, suggest a spontaneous activity or get us out of our routines. I used to feel a bit cranky about having to change plans because he would get (as I would say) "a wild hair up his you-know-where." But now I look fondly back at those memories and remember how many unexpectedly wonderful times we shared because of his spontaneity. And I'm making myself weepy...
Santa Monica will NOT have this, in spite of Ashley's whining about the cold. (60s/40s instead of 40s/30s here) I'm hoping that it will feel right to be away from home. I think my husband would have approved of us continuing with our trip. He was always a very flexible guy.