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November 18, 2020


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You and I think so much alike, Margaret. We'll be celebrating Thanksgiving by ourselves. We love our family too, but they have different levels of exposure. Like you, I just don't understand those who insist the votes were stolen. And now Trump has fired Christopher Krebs of the Cybersecurity and Infrastructure Security Agency (CISA) because he disagreed with him about the election... by tweet no less. It's shameful.


Just for a moment I thought they might be heeding the Governor's words. I am struggling with trying to do the grocery pickup for our Thanksgiving food, or just pick a low time and pick it out ourselves.


Happy that your parents won't be celebrating Thanksgiving with others and that you have relief on that front. I assumed a lot more people valued integrity more than winning.

Ally Bean

Make no assumptions about what other people assume. I find that it all comes down to core values. I know mine, tell me yours-- and then we'll see if friendship is in the cards for us. I'm glad your walls are painted and stuff is back where it belongs. And that you like the results.

Doug M

My goodness, I had to read this a couple times to let it all sink in :) This actually hits close to home, a few weeks back a guy from New York was visiting my blog regularly and not leaving comments but sending emails that were funny, smart, enlightening. (Actually, he reminded me of YOU Margaret.) That is, until the Saturday after the election when the race was called and he sent me some sort of... manifesto detailing the elaborate lengths the Democrats had gone to, to get Biden into the White House. For as thought out as it was, it just sunk deeper & deeper into X-Files territory. Actually, it broke my heart a little 'cuz I thought he was turning out to be a good friend. I let him know right away I didnt wish to communicate further. More & more I am coming to the conclusion that half this country isn't right in the head, hence the 70 million who voted for Donald Trump?! I still can't wrap my head around that. Anyway, sorry for the long ramble here.. just saying, I think Trump and this election have taught me to stop making assumptions about pretty much everyone.


I have always had a saying that my dad taught me and I have followed fairly religiously throughout my life. I don't make assumptions because it will make an ASS out of U and ME.

I have good friends on both sides politically and for four years, the friends on the left have referred to President Trump as Trump or Donald Trump and never President Trump so it wouldn't surprise me if it is a long time before those friends on the right call President Elect Biden by President Elect Biden. I always try to use the respectful term of President no matter if I like the guy or not or go with something generic like "Current Occupant" which seems to fit my political middle of the road stance. In my opinion, if people want political partisanship to stop, it needs to start at home with everyone being respectful of both sides, regardless if their guy is in the Whitehouse or not.

Pam J.

I think the growth of online news, combined with Facebook and Twitter, plus the wild world of cable TV news has changed everything. It's just too easy to spread blatant lies and to manipulate the truth, including through deep-fake videos and photos. White supremacists have found a home on these platforms. Foreign interests have found a home. Rush Limbaugh has been a toxic influence on radio for 30 years, but when all this other online/cable junk became available to millions everything got much worse. You toss a megalomaniac into the mix and we've got a problem. And while I'm at it, I'd like to nominate reality TV for doing its part to rip our society apart. The Apprentice was on TV for, what?, 13-14 years, YEARS folks, and apparently the audience bonded with that horrible man and here we are.

Marie K

One of my assumptions is that people I grew up with had common sense. One of my friends who had Covid early on is up in arms because of a state (Utah?) that is requiring people to wear masks and reduce groups and that the rules would be enforceable. She believes that's totally wrong as do all of her Fb friends. I just don't get it. We're in the middle of a pandemic. I'm hoping if all goes well and Biden makes it in on January 20th, that we won't be an embarrassment to the world quite so much.


I was initially pleasantly surprised by your parents' decision. Then I read the reason.

WRT your assumptions, just this morning I read a quote (attributed to James Randi, but who knows). It went something to the effect that all cults begin with the premise that everyone else is lying. I think that describes the right wing bubble. I have come across cases where normal people get caught in that bubble and almost become different people.


Well, I'm relieved that your parents won't be attending a superspreader Thanksgiving, but then the worry begins again for a superspreader Christmas...

This past week has been hell listening to trump's lawyers spewing insanity. Thankfully the judges are reaming them new assholes.


I think the main assumption that nearly all of us share (I assume) is that the people we know and love think similarly to us. It's one thing for those odd strangers to have such different opinions but sure the people we know and love are smart and thoughtful and share our obviously well thought out and valid opinions? It always shocks me, even though I know better, when I find that someone I like and respect has such disparate opinions.

Conspiracy theorists do not amuse me. I have tried to be amused but honestly they annoy the hell out of me and question the sanity of our country. These are not opinions we can safely differ over. If we want to beat this stupid pandemic, we have to all work together and right now, I just don't see that as ever happening. Perhaps I will be proven wrong.

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