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November 11, 2021


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Tonya Watkins

Boy do I agree that grief isn't just about death. The f*cking pandemic and f*cking trump truly have brought out the ugly reality of so many people. My favorite cousin's husband "friended" me on FB a couple of weeks ago and I accepted, with a little bit of wariness since I know they are religious and conservative. He posted railing against mask mandates, "illegals," and the "socialist libs," (along with many other idiocies). And so, I unfriended him. Life is too short to put up with that crap. There is no point in engaging. I have lost every ounce of respect.

We'll be on our own for Thanksgiving (which has been the case for the past few years), and it's fine. Nate will be on an "underway" at sea, and my DIL and grandson have plans with some friends. I think John and I will pick up some nummy lobster tails and call it GREAT!! I am looking forward to decorating for Christmas, though. Probably start in on Thanksgiving weekend.


I am glad boyfriend got his vehicle back...if there were drugs and paraphernalia involved I would be very wary of touching anything in it.

Found out today, oldest grand has covid...break through case. I am so frustrated, overwhelmed and fatigued with all of this. I feel like we do everything we are supposed to, follow the guidelines and still it happens.
Thanksgiving is now up in the air and I am just sad over all of this. I miss my family and what used to be "normal".


Glad Boyfriend got his car back; should probably wipe it down inside like Joyce suggested. I too am bummed about friends who've turned into idiots. One nurse won't get vaxxed because she heard people got vaxed before surgeries and then died.....pretty sure the reason for the surgery is causing that death. I told her the good reasons (her own son and grandchildren?). She still refuses. I told her Covid will find her. Another nurse friend of 30 years says "God will protect her." I decided I can go the rest of my life without ever seeing her again. It's just so stupid and sad. God gave us a brain, but it doesn't work on some folks. I guess historically there was vaccine resistance in the past. I just remember being told to have the little sugar cube with pink medicine in it. Everyone lined up at school for that polio vaccine!
Holidays by yourself even, with these dangerous covid variants running around is peaceful. Linda in Kansas


So happy the boyfriend got his car back!

It's good to have choices around the holidays. Since you are vaccinated, I don't see the harm in going to your brother's home if you want to. Life goes on and we've lost so much time with loved ones. I would advocate for you putting up a tree! There's something about the lights on the tree that bring me such joy.

I think we're all works in progress and that's such a great thing to remember. Every day we get the chance to start again and do better, be better.

Marie K

I'm sure you can get help decorating (John, other family). It is a decision whether to decorate or not. Just weigh how much you want to, not how much others may want you to. Thank you to all of your family members for serving.


That is good about the car recovery, and the thoughts on grief are good as well.

kayak woman

Thanksgiving would be a hard NO for me.

Ally Bean

Balancing grief and gratitude. So true. I don't know what I'd do about your Thanksgiving dilemma. It's amazing how hypocritical some people are when it comes to meds and good health. A nice quiet day at home might be in order, now that I think on this. Beats me what to do about Christmas this year, too. I don't know if we'll decorate or not, either.

Pam Donaldson

I feel for you. It's all very difficult.

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