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August 10, 2022


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I feel like you were getting to something that I missed? I hope both daughters are doing well and happy about their current living arrangements... those are some nice looks back. (And yes, you can see how much your boy takes after his dad!)

DrumMajor Linda in Kansas

Nope. No. I disagree. Mr. Digger looks like YOU! Linda in Kansas

Arkansas Patti

So sad when the ones we love can't make it with the partner we would love to see them with. If she picked good once she can do it again.
I think I see your genes very strongly in your kids and even Little Guy. His Dad was a handsome little fellow too though.

Ally Bean

"Washington has terrible drivers apparently!" Who knew? I find the drivers around here speed, but are *generally* courteous. It sounds like your daughters are settling in, difficult and weird as it may be for them.


I moved from the city of Montreal to beyond the suburbs of Toronto on about my 15th birthday. What a difficult transition that was! Adult transitions have been easier for the most part except when I was sent to a rural high school to teach a new subject with a department head who was mental. He was charged and convicted of attempted murder the next year. I semi- seriously considered leaving teaching. G

Karen Sullivan

I like to believe we're all exactly where we ought to be (or we'd be somewhere else!) It takes time to adjust to big changes, that is for sure. Hopefully, your daughter will find some reliable childcare soon.

I love your shout out to your daughter's former boyfriend. I've felt this myself, many times with my children when I've become attached to their boyfriends or girlfriends and then the relationships are over. So sad!

kayak woman

My daughters have both moved back to my town (where they grew up). Well, one of them hasn't moved yet, just has a new job here. The other has been living in the area all along (since college) but recently moved closer. I don't think they moved to be closer to me necessarily but I love having them closer. I think Michigan drivers might rank up among the worst.

Joanne Noragon

If only childcare could be resolved, that household would fall quickly into place. #2, it's just as well she threw over the boyfriend. He would not have been happy, and it take two to tango, they say.

Jenni Elyse

I hope all is okay. This post sounded a little sad. I do agree that healing is our responsibility. It's so hard and scary, and it's worth it.


We grieve so many things and even joyful events can cause grief. We are strange creatures indeed. Change is hard. I remember when I left my husband how hard it was. I wanted to leave. I wanted the divorce and yet still I grieved. I grieved what I left behind and what I never had.

Sending hugs to you.


My theory is, some people pass through our lives and others are with us for the long term. I accept this and can even see my own history showing exactly this. Child care is hard everywhere. One neighbor hired a live-in nanny and she worked out for a couple years. Another friend hired a guy/nanny for her 4 children and to keep him she offered to pay for his night classes at a local university. A third friend has built a family compound. 3 houses on a single lot and everybody is helping with childcare.


There's much unsaid here. Sounds like you're letting go of someone toxic? Can be hard, I know.

Kramer looked like a very nice guy. After visiting every state in the continental USA, Ohio is one of the most boring states, imo. I bet YD, with all of her athleticism, found it lacking in things she loves, like mountains.


Life is certainly a balancing act, giving up here in order to gain there. When I lived in Sarasota I had just bought a condo that I loved when a job opportunity opened in New York. Needless to say, I went for it, and I got it, but I had to give up my beloved condo which, in the end, I lived in for less than a year. I still miss that place. (Especially when I moved into my tiny, dark, cramped New York apartment!)


It's interesting to look at change as letting go. Okay, in relationships it's obvious but in other changes, maybe less obvious but still a factor. I've thought of it as grief. Grief that I don't go to the grocery store where I knew the manager and he would get me anything I requested. Grief that I gave up my little house or grief that I didn't get my car fixed and bought one I didn't like as much instead. But those are also issues of letting go. Sometimes when we let go of something, even though we're scared, worried, or filled with angst, it makes room for something even better in our lives.


Life truly is a balancing act.

Marie K

Little guy sure does have a great mix of Mom and Dad.

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